I'm in a slump. I haven't stitched in days. I think I'm just depressed. I miss my dh. I feel like I'm on a roller coaster ride. Happy and up on the weekend and down during the week. I'm really trying to be happy and strong during the week for my kids, but sometimes it's so hard. I've discovered it's really bad on Tuesday and Wednesday, so I'm trying to be more aware of that and watch my mood.
Well, I don't want to depress anyone else out there - it's just amazing how attached you get after 14 years of marriage! LOL! :) I always considered myself so strong. I am, but not as strong as I thought. I didn't realize how much I leaned on my husband for so many things. Anyway, I'll get out of it soon - just writing this makes me feel better. Write later! :)
Update - Thank you all so much for your kind words! I went to the Dr. and came back to 10 wonderful emails! You don't know what it means to me! Thank you again! :)
Hi Nicole! I've been reading your blog for awhile, just haven't commented yet. I've been married for 28 years and for most of that time my hubby worked 24-hour shifts (firefighter/paramedic)and a lot of that time he worked in two places so he was gone anywhere from 2-5 nights a week. I have 3 boys too so I can understand where you are coming from. You will work through it! Hubby now works 8-5, M-F. (in theory!) He's home every night now - I'm getting used to it! LOL
ReplyDeleteSending cyber hugs your way! Be strong!
ReplyDeleteTake care Nicole. Hubby and I lived like you are for 3 months, it was difficult and he received many abusive and angry phone calls from me,usually on a Wednesday.
ReplyDeleteYou will all be back together soon.
Joanne
I only have one boy but when my husband goes out of town. I miss him a lot too. Hang in there.
ReplyDeleteHaving gone through a deployment and now an out of town job with weekends home, I can totally sympathize. Some weeks are worse than others. I hope the gloom lifts soon and you can get back to stitching :-). Lots of Hugs!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. It stinks being down and then trying to do for your family. Stay strong, you are you know even though you don't think so...many women couldn't do it! SO pat yourself on your back and know that all will be well in the end :)
ReplyDeleteMany hugs to you {{{HUGS}}}
Hi Nicole
ReplyDeleteOh I am so sorry you are feeling so blue!! I would feel just as you do and I am amazed at how well you have done having him gone all the time. It just isn't the way things should be with a couple being in different places. Is he going to be doing this for a really long time? If only you could be with him! Just know that he I am sure loves you very much and maybe he can call you more often! I wish I could help!! I get depressed and can't even stitch so I think it is remarkable what you are able to do. Cyberhugs to you and I hope you can be feeling much better soon! Debby :)
Debby :)
Nicole, you already know my story but I also wanted to share that as people, we need other people especially those who are a significant part, it doesn't make you weak. You need this person everyday. I feel the same way about my hubby. He works 12 hour shifts and has to drive a total of 3 hours (1 1/2 there and back again). I still get to see him everyday and at least hug him but sometimes it's hard especially on his 4 day week (he works 3 days one week and 4 days the next week, his work week starts on Sunday) by Tuesday and Wednesday I am getting pretty lonely (I don't work but even if I did I would most probably be just as lonely). Even though this isn't as hard as what you have to experience, I can kind of understand how you feel. Just keep blogging and reaching out to your friends and that should fill some of the void. (I don't know if this helps but think of the $$$ he's earning, that's what I try to do and sometimes I fill the void by spending some of it on ebay and elsewhere,lqtm).
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear you are down, Nicole. I can't even imagine what it would be like but it must be really hard on you, esp with those little boys too! Maybe if you know you're heading downward on Tues and Wednesday - try and plan a routine for yourself on those days in particular? I don't know if you want to make it stitching related or what, but focus on something you will look forward to on those days and that might take your mind off abit. Just a thought. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteTanya
Nicole,
ReplyDelete(((hugs)))
I know what its like to have loved one far away. Hang in there and think about what you'll do the next time when you miss him, don't dwel on being apart.
ReplyDeleteSending lots of hugs Nicole.
ReplyDeleteNicole, you will make it through this difficult time and be all the stronger for it. Set yourself some goals, projects finished, a room decorated, whatever makes you feel good, and set about seeing those goals gained, and the time will fly by. You'll also have some great things to show hubby when he's home on the weekends. He might start to wondering how you are doing so well without him, lol.
ReplyDeleteHugs Nicole. Of course you miss him - that's normal - 14 years is a long time. And even strong people miss their partners and get down, it doesn't mean you're a feeble female ;) I bet if your hubby was at home with all the kids while you were away he'd be calling all the time for support! LOL :)
ReplyDeleteHello Nicole! I'm sincerely sorry to hear you've been feeling down. I'll keep you in my thoughts and am sending you hugs.
ReplyDeleteHi Nicole, it is very hard to have your hubby gone. When my husband is out of town. I try to focus on different things-more on the children, stitching, a new recipe anything that will destract me. Take care and hang in there!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear you are down. Big hugs to you. You'll all be together again soon. You'll get through this difficult time. I know right now it doesn't seem that way, but you will.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you are depressed. I know it's hard to be there alone with your kids. Maybe you could plan something special for Wednesdays and have that to look forward to each week. And, when all else fails - eat chocolate!!
ReplyDeleteI will pray for you.
{{{hugs}}} - it's OK to be sad, it must be terrible to have dh so far away - we are here for you!
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